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Rikki, may God keep you in His arms and teach you in His arms. Be well.

Ann

7/30/2011 3:08:00 AM
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Thank you Rikki,

Melodie has informed me that you and I should stop this conversation as she believes it has nothing to do with Mennonite information. She could not be more wrong. There is a lot of education going on here that touches anything that is religious.

Probably the only transgender information we are given in the news are the people who tend to be ostentatious. It is the ostentatious individuals who totally aggravate me as they are presented as being all there is. I thank you for the further information that was denied to me previously.

I was tested for masculinity/femininity about 1973. I tested right down the middle between the masculine and the feminine. I found a journal article when I was doing research for a Masters project around 1993, concerning the prejudices of managers who give promotions.

This study showed that for both sexes, there are those who are extremely feminine, those who are extremely masculine, those who are right down the middle for feminine and masculine, those who are neither masculine nor feminine, and those who are all the shades in between masculinity and femininity.

The extremely masculine or feminine managers of both sexes were less likely to promote anyone who did not follow their pattern. The middle of the road between masculine and feminine or those who were neither, were the best individuals to not be prejudiced about promoting those not like themselves.

Because the test I took was so old, I suspect I truly belong to the neither masculine nor feminine group.

I apologize for misjudging you. You have provided information that at least to me, has not been commonly available. I actually do not mind the transvestites. It has been the transgender people portrayed as being the extremes of femininity that has outraged me. You have shown me what is the truth.

Thank you very much,

Ann

7/23/2011 2:36:00 AM
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Rikki,

It has always bothered me when I see a transgender woman wave her arms in the air with all of the makeup and clothes and tells the world that she is what is meant by feminine.

Makes me sick. I am a woman and I am not that.

Ann

7/22/2011 2:54:00 AM
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Rikki,

I will stick with genetics, to say who is female and who is not, someone born XX is female and someone born XY is male. There are other genetics that mix stuff up and also the way people feel. What is feminine and what is not has always been at the disgression of the male population. I believe that God also has a hand in what is truly feminine because He created us all.

I am a female so I am feminine by definition no matter what I do, how I dress or whatever makeup I do or do not wear (my definition).

Now if you wish to become really funky, we are all female to God's male and should be feminine to His masculine. However, men are not so good at playing the feminine to God's masculine but they are very good at telling women they are not obedient enough to themselves.

Does not mean that Rikki is not a woman. As I have said before, I wonder if God is not testing us concerning the judgments we make about other people. If Rikki says she is a woman, then she is a woman and leave it at that.

Ann

7/22/2011 2:20:00 AM
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Rikki,

If the outward appearances of feminity make you comfortable with being female, so be it. I will not argue with what makes you comfortable.

I have watched people over the years (on tv) who have decided they are female rather than male. Such people have always focused on makeup, clothes, fingernails, and hair styles. I have never seen one individual who transgendered who did not do all of the outward appearances stuff.

Rikki, you are scaring me.

Being a woman does not mean makeup, clothes, fingernails, hair styles or not being hairy (women grow hair, thank you very much). Being a woman has nothing to do with any of the aforementioned.

You are doing all of the things I have seen everyone else do when they transgender.

I am female. I do not believe makeup, fingernails, eyebrows, clothes, unhairiness, etc. are feminine.

So what is truly female and feminine? I am asking you, Rikki. You are changing so you should know.

I am not trying to be mean. I truly do not understand.

Ann

7/22/2011 1:53:00 AM
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Rikki,

Being a woman has nothing at all to do with makeup, hair, being hairy or not, fingernails, or how one dresses.

May God help you discover what being a woman means for you, and keep you safe in His arms.

Ann

7/22/2011 12:36:00 AM
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Hey Rikki,

I have makeup but I only wear it about once every five years, if that. Usually I buy the makeup and then don't wear it. I might wear it once or twice and then get tired of putting it on. Like you said, it does take time.

I cannot shape my eyebrows and have never found anyone who will do exactly what I ask to have done. Makeup artists and hair stylists often have their own agendas, even though you are paying them to do what you want done.

I do not shave my legs but I wear britches all of the time. No one sees my legs except me. I also do not shave my underarms but that is because my skin is very sensitive. I cannot wear any of the deoderant that is on the market.

Anyone having problems finding a deoderant they can wear without breaking out in a rash, try the Zinc Oxide Ointment by Fougera. It works and has no fish ointment smell.

I understand there are guys who enjoy hairy girls but I have never met one.

Now, fingernails. There are guys who will not marry a girl unless she has at least semi-long, painted fingernails. I just can't stand long fingernails. I tried a couple of times to grow mine out but it just drove me crazy. My fingernails never felt clean enough when they were long. I only learned this year that good chefs always keep their fingernails quite short just like I do. I have had people acuse me of biting my fingernails but I have never done so; I have always cut them.

I would refuse to marry a guy who insisted that I must have even semi-long, painted fingernails for him. A fellow who does not care that I am so uncomfortable having such nails, does not love me.

Perhaps you would enjoy such nails and the taking care of them. It would drive me crazy but I am not you.

Be well and have a happy search about what makes you most comfortable being a woman. Everyone is different.




Ann

7/22/2011 12:34:00 AM
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Rikki,

I am not judging you. Hating how I have been treated as a woman, if an individual has a choice about whether to be male or female, I have trouble understanding why anyone would want to be female.

I am so sorry,

Ann

7/20/2011 1:51:00 AM
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I am so sorry Rikki,

I do not believe you understood the question I was asking about why you want to be a woman.

I, in no way, deny your right to be the female you are. I am happy that you feel so much better being a woman rather than to continue trying to be a male.

Having been reared in Southern Baptist churches and observing how women are treated in general, I have no understanding of why anyone at all would want to be a woman. It is not that I want to be a male because I do not; I do not enjoy the way men behave and would not want to be guilty of the same behaviors.

I truly wish that God had created something else, rather than men, something that works better.

I have no deep feelings about being female or wanting to be male, like you do about being female. Being female in this world means taking a lot of nasty guff off the males in this world (which I do not believe God condones). Why do you choose to accept that lot? Why would you want to make yourself available to the nasty guff? I truly do not understand.

When I was in my mid teens and decided that I did not like what was going on, I decided to be a real person, rather than a female or male. It has aggravated me over the years, watching men treat me as if I were a woman rather than treating me as if I were one of the guys, the way they should have done.

Rikki I am sorry. From my experience in life, I have no way to understand why anyone would want to be a female in this world. That is why I asked the question that I asked. That is why I was asking you. Your experience is different from mine, so I was hoping you could tell me.

I have never enjoyed being a female but I truly do not/did not want to be a male, either. I have always enjoyed being a real person and have stayed with that.

God bless,

Ann

7/20/2011 1:16:00 AM
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Rikki,

I am seriously asking. I do not understand why anyone would want to be a woman.

By the time I reached my mid-teens, I had realized that being a woman was not the best idea in the world.

If I understand what you have said, your parents chose maleness for you. Why in the world do you want to be a woman? One is treated like an unmentionable word no matter where you are born in this world, if you are female. Why do you want to be a woman?

Can you tell me(us)?

Thank you,


Ann

7/18/2011 12:31:00 AM
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To All,

Please read Rikki's post on 7/11/2011 at 5:50 am. If I understand correctly what Rikki wrote, then:

What Rikki was talking about is that genetically, Rikki was both sexes when she was born, a hermaphrodite. This does happen with certain genetics. The parents usually choose what sex they want their child to be and operation(s) may be done to make it so. This child may later discover that the gender the parents chose is not the gender that feels right to the child. A lot of misery occurs, as described by Rikki.

Ann

7/18/2011 12:11:00 AM
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Rikki,

In a relationship, keeping someone who argues or fights the way Eric does is a total waste of time. There is no way to come to any type of accommodation with an "Eric" except to slander yourself to yourself.

This is very sad. I hope Rikki does not believe she must accept the kind of behavior she handed out as a male individual.

God bless and keep and help you,

Ann

7/17/2011 11:15:00 PM
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Sorry Rikki,

I think all should accept transvestites and homosexuals as real people who do indeed belong to God. I believe it is not your sexual orientation or outlook that is important to God but that people are monogamous in their relationships.

God expects us all to be monogamous with Him, having no other gods. So we should be monogamous with our partners on a permanent basis (i.e., as if married or actually being married, for life, til death do you part).

Humans have syphilis, gonorrhea, venereal herpes, HIV or AIDS, uterine cancer and various other nasty venereal diseases you don't commonly hear about. I think it is fair to assume that God wants us to be monogamous people. I don't think we would have any of those diseases if people had not gone out and done what God did not want them to do. With either syphilis or gonorrhea (and I do not remember which), we developed one of those two diseases because men went out buggering sheep and then took the disease home to their wives.

Rikki, be what you are. To worship God, be monogamous with your mate when you have one. Don't go experimenting sexually with everyone else before you choose your mate. Choose your mate carefully and make sure that he or she has chosen you the same way. Get married if it is legally allowed, then have sex and stay with the one you choose. I believe there are congregations that will accommodate a non-legal marriage before God.

I do not know what else to say. I know a lot of religious people do not agree with my beliefs. I do know that you, Rikki, belong to God.

God bless and be well,

Ann

7/11/2011 2:40:00 AM
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Rikki,

It does not matter if you have never been married. And, you do not have to believe me.

God is.

We are to be true to God. We are not supposed to worship false gods.

Marriage is a picture of how we are supposed to worship God. Marriage implies sex.

Each human is to have sex with only one other person. We are not to worship other gods, so we have sex with only one other person, the marriage mate. Maybe you are not allowed to legally marry in the United States but in the eyes of God, you are married to the person you have sex with. You marry only one time.

God wants us to be true to Him, so we must be true to our spouses because we are the picture of God. We are made in His image.

God has made definitions for us to follow. You do not destroy the definition by going out on your spouse, your loved one. You stay with one individual.

I know there are problems with all of the abuses that occur, like husbands beating on wives or wives beating on husbands. You must try your best to uphold the definitions that God has made.

Ann

7/10/2011 3:44:00 AM
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I would like to know what the Mennonite church view is on Trans women.
If we truly love our neighbour, surely this should extend to members of the ‘Transgender ‘community, (apologies to those who do not identify with this term).
I find it abhorrent that Trans women/ men, suffer rejection from their families and other social hubs, including church.
Surely the church can be a safe haven and provide community/ social opportunities for the Trans community.
Fortunately, as a recently diagnosed Trans person, I have not suffered this, but I know many who are desperately lonely. I think the church should contemplate the fact that our Trans community, in some places, suffer a 40% suicide rate, mainly due to social isolation.
I ask and pray for the church to comfort our sometimes desperately lonely people, who due to violence, stigma, and harassment feel that their only option is to keep to themselves.



Rikki
Logan, Qld Australia
7/6/2011 3:49:00 AM
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